Funeral.
According to Christian rules, the deceased should be buried in a coffin. In it he will rest (keep) until the future resurrection. The grave of the deceased must be kept clean, respectful and orderly. After all, even the Mother of God was placed in a coffin, and the coffin was left in the grave until the day when the Lord called His Mother to Himself.

The clothes in which a person died should not be given to either one’s own or strangers. Mostly it is burned. If relatives are against this and want to wash their clothes and put them away, then that is their right. But it should be remembered that under no circumstances should these clothes be worn for 40 days.

The deceased is washed the same hour after death, until it has completely cooled down. Soap is usually left behind. It helps in many matters and from troubles. But you have to be careful, because using this soap can also cause harm to other people.

They usually dress in new clothes that are appropriate, neither too big nor too small. If there are no new clothes, then they put on only clean ones.

You should not wear clothes that have sweat and blood on them. This could lead to another death.

If a person, while still alive, asked him to wear what he wanted, then his wish must be fulfilled.

Military personnel are usually dressed in military uniform. The front-line soldiers ask for orders to be put on them, because anyway they will be lost or thrown out many years later, but they deserve them and are proud of them. In general, this is a purely personal family issue.

There must be a white blanket with which the deceased is covered. A crown with the image of Jesus Christ is placed on the forehead, Mother of God, John the Baptist. On the crown are words in the old style, this is the writing of the Trisagion Song. A cross or icon should be placed in your hands.

If it is not possible to invite a minister from the church, then take care in advance to invite older people to read psalms and serve a memorial service. Psalms are usually read without interruption. They are interrupted only during the funeral service.

Such prayers are a consolation for those who grieve for the dead. In addition, you should read this prayer:
Remember, Lord God, in faith and hope, the eternal life of Your servant, our brother (name), and as Goodness and love for mankind, forgive sins and consume untruths, weaken, forgive and forgive all his voluntary and involuntary sins, deliver him from eternal torment and fire Gehenna and grant him the communion and enjoyment of Your eternal good things, prepared for those who love You, even if they have sinned, but have not departed from You, and undoubtedly in the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, God glorified by You in the Trinity, faith and Unity in the Trinity and the Trinity in Unity , gloriously, even to his last sigh of confession.

Be merciful to him in the same way, and I believe in You. Instead of works of imputation, and with Thy saints, as generous, rest: for there is no man who will live and not sin. But You are the only God, besides One God of mercies and generosity, and love for mankind, and to You we send up glory, to the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, now, ever and ever. Amen.

At the end of three days, it is necessary to take the deceased to church for a funeral service. But gradually they did not adhere to this, and the deceased spent the night at home not for three days, but for one night. Four candles are placed on the coffin in the corners, changing them as they burn.

All the time since the day of death there has been a glass of water and a piece of bread, millet is poured into a saucer. You need to be careful during a funeral. Usually relatives have no time for this. But you can stipulate who will keep order, since it is no secret that a lot is done at a funeral: they remove damage, put photos of enemies in the coffin, try to take hair, nails, strings from hands and feet, etc.

Under the pretext of “touching their feet”, so as not to be afraid, they do the necessary things. They ask for the stool on which the coffin stood, flowers from the wreath, and water. It's up to you to decide whether to give it all or not. Blood relatives should not wash the floor in the house where the deceased lay.

Relatives are not allowed to walk in front of the coffin, carry wreaths, or drink wine. It is allowed to lament and eat kutya or pancake after the burial.

At the cemetery they give the last kiss to the crown on the forehead and hands. Fresh flowers and an icon are taken from the coffin. Make sure that the icon is not buried.

People often ask whether it is possible to wear watches and gold. If you have already put on your watch, do not take it off for anything. There is no harm in the fact that a dead person has a watch on his hand. But if you remove the watch from a dead hand, turn the hands back, cast a spell on some person, then it won’t be that long of a wait until that person dies. Regarding jewelry: if you don’t mind, then there’s nothing wrong with wearing it on a deceased person.

When saying goodbye, the face is covered. The lid is hammered in and the coffin is lowered. Usually on towels. Towels are distributed to people. But it’s better not to take them, you might get sick.

The coffin is lowered so that the deceased lies facing east. They throw money into the grave, a payoff for the deceased: the relatives throw it first. Then they throw the earth. Not only a funeral service is necessary, but also commemorations, which are done upon returning from the cemetery and which are repeated on the third, ninth and fortieth day and every year.

If you realize you made a mistake during the funeral, be sure to tell her off!
My words are repeated, you are church domes, you are silver bells. An Tyn, Khaba, Uru, Cha, Chabash, you are dead spirits. Do not call to my world, but to your own world, do not look, do not seek. I will gird myself with the light of God. I will baptize myself with the Holy Cross. My Lord is Great. Now, forever. Forever and ever. Amen.

How to ask forgiveness from a deceased person during burial.
Sometimes it becomes necessary to rebury a deceased person. But it is unlikely that the one who conceived and executed it understands what act he is committing. People are accustomed to thinking of a dead person as some kind of object that does not see, hear or feel, and therefore, you can do whatever you want with it, without incurring any responsibility, and that any actions with a dead body will go unpunished. But that's not true. The body is a vessel where, by the grace of Jesus Christ, the immortal soul of a deceased person resided for a long time. When the body of the deceased is buried, it finds its home, or, as they used to say, a home.

They also say that it is difficult for the deceased to get used to his new home. And only after forty days after the death of a person, when his soul leaves the earth forever, the body it left behind goes into the kingdom of spirits. The abandoned, motionless body is preparing to pass into decay. For it is said: from dust he came and to dust he will go.

A sacred place where, until the Day of Judgment, the flesh that carried blood, mind and soul is kept, the sacred peace that the one who left this world deserved, in which he loved, suffered, worked, endured pain, raised children.

You can talk an insane amount about each dead person and still say absolutely nothing.

Arriving at the cemetery and peering at the monuments, seeing the faces of living people, you want to scream: My God! After all, each of them is a whole world. And in each of them this world died...

So think about whether it is necessary to disturb the peace of the deceased by digging up his ashes touched by decay in order to transport them to another place, from your point of view, the best place. Better than?

You cannot make your soul cry again over a body disturbed by people. May it rest in peace. In addition, if the spirit of the dead is disturbed and does not accept a new place, there will be trouble. The spirit of the dead will punish those who came up with the idea of ​​​​reburying the coffin in an elite cemetery.
If this does happen, you need to protect yourself from possible disaster.

At the new burial site, read this plot forty times. You have to read it while standing at the foot of the grave.
In the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. Keep, O Lord, the soul of Your deceased servant (name) in Your kingdom. Don't let this one dead soul don't let your soul walk on earth dead alive harm souls. Saint Lazarus, did you walk on earth after death? And he walked the earth after death and never harmed living people. So that the soul of the deceased slave (name) no longer walks the earth and does not harm living people forever and ever. Key, lock, tongue. Amen.

Mark yourself with a cross and say a prayer to the Honest Cross:
May God rise again, and may His enemies be scattered, and may those who hate Him flee from His presence. As smoke disappears, let them disappear; as wax melts in the face of fire, so let demons perish from the presence of those who love God and signify themselves with the sign of the cross, and who say in joy: Rejoice, Most Honorable and Life-Giving Cross of the Lord, drive away demons by the power of our drunken Lord Jesus Christ, who descended into hell and straightened the power the devil, and who gave us His Honest Cross to drive away every adversary.
Oh, Most Honorable and Life-Giving Cross of the Lord! Help me with the Holy Virgin Mary and with all the saints forever. Amen.

From longing for the deceased.
Get up at night, go to the mirror and, looking into your pupils, say:
Don’t be sad, don’t grieve, don’t shed tears! Night Mother, take the melancholy away from me. As the dawn takes you away, so take away my melancholy. Now and ever and unto ages of ages.
Amen.

After this, wash your face and go to bed. The next day you will feel better. Do this three times and the melancholy will go away.
How to remove damage done at a funeral.

At night, burn incense on the coals, saying:
How this incense burns and melts, so that the grave disease from the servant of God (name) will burn away and melt away. Amen.

If a person turns his kutya over on himself.
From the letter: “For some time now I began to believe in omens, and how could I not believe them if I myself became an eyewitness to the fact that they come true. This is why I decided to write to you: a grandfather in our family died, and my aunt accidentally knocked over the funeral kutya, all the food they had prepared for the entire memorial! Kutya had to be cooked again, and my aunt died forty days after the funeral, day after day!”

Indeed, if during a funeral someone’s candle falls or a piece of bread and a glass of water placed for the deceased falls directly onto the lap of a sitting person, then this person will soon die.

If this, God forbid, happens, I advise, just in case, to reprimand the person out of trouble with a special spell that I give in this book.
Read the plot before sunrise:
In the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. Soul, body, spirit and all five senses. I protect the soul, I protect the body, I release the Spirit, I protect the feeling. The Lord God gave the commandment, the Lord God protected him and said: “Evil will not come to you, the wound will not come close to your body.” My angels will sing about you, both on earth and in heaven. The true Lord spoke the truth. He sent a savior and guardian angel. Angel of God, throughout my life, hour by hour, day by day, save, preserve and have mercy on me. I believe in One Father and Son and Holy Spirit. Now and ever and unto ages of ages. Amen.

If the deceased was buried not at lunchtime, but after sunset, then exactly seven years later there will be a new coffin.
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Children under one year of age are not taken to funerals and are not fed from the funeral table.
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If at a funeral they give you part of the towel on which the coffin was lowered into the grave, do not take it. The towel should be left in the grave and not given to people. Whoever uses it will get sick.
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Sometimes at a memorial service someone suggests singing the deceased person’s favorite song and everyone sings without hesitation. But it has long been noticed that those who sing at the funeral table soon begin to get sick, and those who have a weak guardian angel generally die early.
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Do not borrow anything from a family where the deceased person has not been remembered for forty days. Otherwise, you too will have a coffin in the same year.
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According to custom, people sit around the coffin all night. Make sure that none of those sitting at the coffin sleep or doze. Otherwise, you will “sleep” another dead person. If something like this does happen, then it should be reported.
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After the funeral, the bathhouse is not heated. On this day you should not wash yourself completely, just wash your face and hands. You should especially be wary of strangers asking you to wash yourself after a funeral in your bathhouse or bathtub.
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Questions are often asked about commemorations that coincide with Lent. You need to know that commemorations in the first, fourth and seventh weeks of Lent are done only during fasting and strangers are never invited to the commemoration at this time.
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Very Bad sign, When pallbearer The first person leaves the apartment with his back turned. You need to take care of this in advance and warn those who will carry the coffin so that they leave the apartment facing the exit, and not with their backs.
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They don’t move the coffin in the house, they don’t look for it comfortable spot. Think in advance about where to put it so you don’t have to move it from place to place.
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ABOUT THE DECEASED AND FUNERALS.
How to see off a loved one on their last journey, loved one without harming yourself and your loved ones? Usually this sad event takes us by surprise, and we get lost listening to everyone and following their advice. But, as it turns out, not everything is so simple. Sometimes people use this sad event to harm you. Therefore, remember how to properly escort a person on his final journey.

At the moment of death, a person experiences a painful feeling of fear as the soul leaves the body. When leaving the body, the soul meets the Guardian Angel given to it during Holy Baptism, and demons. Relatives and friends of the dying person should try to alleviate his mental suffering with prayer, but under no circumstances should they scream or cry loudly.
At the moment of separation of the soul from the body, it is necessary to read the Canon of Prayer to the Mother of God. When reading the Canon, a dying Christian holds a lighted candle or a holy cross in his hand. If he does not have the strength to make the sign of the cross, one of his relatives does this, leaning towards the dying person and clearly saying: “Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me. In Your hands, Lord Jesus, I commend my spirit, Lord Jesus, my spirit.”
You can sprinkle holy water on a dying person with the words: “The grace of the Holy Spirit, who has sanctified this water, deliver your soul from all evil.”
According to church custom, the dying person asks for forgiveness from those present and forgives them himself.
Not often, but it still happens that a person prepares his own coffin in advance. It is usually stored in the attic. In this case, pay attention to the following: the coffin is empty, and since it is made to a person’s standards, he begins to “pull” it into himself. And a person, as a rule, dies faster. Previously, to prevent this from happening, sawdust, shavings, and grain were poured into the empty coffin. After the death of a person, sawdust, shavings and grain were also buried in the hole. After all, if you feed a bird with such grain, it will become sick.
When a person has died and measurements are taken from him to make a coffin, under no circumstances should this measurement be placed on the bed. It is best to take it out of the house and put it in a coffin during the funeral.
Be sure to remove all silver objects from the deceased: after all, this is precisely the metal that is used to fight the “evil ones.” Therefore, the latter can “disturb” the body of the deceased.
The body of the deceased is washed immediately after death. Washing occurs as a sign of the spiritual purity and integrity of the life of the deceased, as well as so that he appears in purity before the face of God after the resurrection. Ablution should cover all parts of the body.
You need to wash your body with warm, not hot water, so as not to steam it. When they wash the body, they read: “Holy God, Holy Mighty, Holy Immortal, have mercy on us” or “Lord, have mercy.”
To make it more convenient to wash the deceased, an oilcloth is laid on the floor or bench and covered with a sheet. The body of a deceased person is placed on top. They take one basin with clean water, and the other - with soap. Using a sponge dipped in soapy water, wash the entire body, starting from the face and ending with the feet, then wash with clean water and dry with a towel. Lastly, they wash the head and comb the deceased’s hair.
After washing, the deceased is dressed in new, light, clean clothes. They must put a cross on the deceased if he did not have one.
It is advisable that ablution takes place during daylight hours - from sunrise to sunset. Water after ablution must be handled very carefully. It is necessary to dig a hole far from the yard, garden and living quarters, where people do not walk, and pour everything, to the last drop, into it and cover it with earth.

The fact is that the water in which the deceased was washed causes very strong damage. In particular, this water can give a person cancer. Therefore, do not give this water to anyone, no matter who approaches you with such a request.

Try not to spill this water around the apartment so that those living in it do not get sick.
Pregnant women should not wash the deceased in order to avoid illness of the unborn child, as well as women who are menstruating.
As a rule, only elderly women prepare the deceased for his last journey.
Relatives and friends should not make a coffin.
It is best to bury the shavings formed during the manufacture of the coffin in the ground or, in extreme cases, throw them into water, but do not burn them.
The bed on which a person died does not need to be thrown away, as many do. Just take her out to the chicken coop and let her lie there for three nights so that, as the legend goes, the rooster will sing her song three times.
When a deceased person is placed in a coffin, the coffin must be sprinkled with holy water both inside and out, and you can also sprinkle it with incense.
A whisk is placed on the forehead of the deceased. It is given in the church at the funeral service.
A pillow, usually made of cotton wool, is placed under the feet and head of the deceased. The body is covered with a sheet.
The coffin is placed in the middle of the room in front of the icons, turning the face of the deceased with his head towards the icons.
When you see a dead person in a coffin, do not automatically touch your body with your hands. Otherwise, in the place where you touched, various skin growths in the form of a tumor may grow.
If there is a dead person in the house, then when you meet your friend or relatives there, you should greet with a bow of the head, and not with your voice.
While there is a dead person in the house, you should not sweep the floor, as this will bring trouble to your family (illness or worse).
If there is a dead person in the house, do not do any laundry.
Do not place two needles crosswise on the lips of the deceased, supposedly to preserve the body from decomposition. This will not save the body of the deceased, but the needles that were on his lips will definitely disappear; they are used to cause damage.
To prevent a heavy smell from coming from the deceased, you can put a bunch of dry sage at his head, popularly called “cornflowers”. It also serves another purpose - it drives away " evil spirits».
For the same purposes, you can use willow branches, which are sacred in Palm Sunday and are kept behind images. These branches can be placed under the deceased,
It happens that a deceased person has already been placed in a coffin, but the bed on which he died has not yet been taken out. Acquaintances or strangers may come up to you and ask permission to lie on the bed of the deceased so that their back and bones do not hurt. Don't allow this, don't hurt yourself.
Do not put fresh flowers in the coffin so that the deceased does not have a strong smell. For this purpose, use artificial or, as a last resort, dried flowers.
A candle is lit near the coffin as a sign that the deceased has moved to the realm of light - the best. afterlife.
For three days, the Psalter is read over the deceased.
The Psalter is read continuously over the Christian’s tomb until the deceased remains unburied.
A lamp or candle is lit in the house, which burns as long as the deceased is in the house.
It happens that glasses with wheat are used instead of a candlestick. This wheat is often used to cause damage, and it should also not be used to kill poultry or livestock.
The hands and feet of the deceased are tied. Hands folded so that the right one is on top, B left hand the deceased is enclosed with an icon or cross; for men - the image of the savior, for women - the image of the Mother of God. Or you can do this: in the left hand - a cross, and on the chest of the deceased - a Holy image.
Make sure that someone else's things are not placed under the deceased. If you notice this, then you need to pull them out of the coffin and burn them somewhere away.
Sometimes, out of ignorance, some compassionate mothers put photographs of their children in a coffin with their grandparents. After this, the child begins to get sick, and if help is not provided in time, death can occur.
It happens that there is a dead person in the house, but there are no suitable clothes for him, and then one of the family members gives his things. The deceased is buried, and the one who gave away his things begins to get sick.
The coffin is taken out of the house, turning the face of the deceased towards the exit. When the body is carried out, the mourners sing a song in honor of the Holy Trinity: “Holy God, Holy Mighty, Holy Immortal, have mercy on us.”
It happens that when a coffin with a deceased person is taken out of the house, someone stands near the door and begins to tie knots in rags, explaining that he is tying the knots so that no more coffins will be taken out of this house. Although such a person has something completely different on his mind. Try to take these rags away from him.
If a pregnant woman goes to a funeral, she will do harm to herself. It is possible that a sick child will be born. Therefore, try to stay at home during this time, and you need to say goodbye to your loved one in advance - before the funeral.
When a dead person is being carried to a cemetery, do not cross his path under any circumstances, as various tumors may form on your body. If this happens, then you should take the hand of the deceased, always the right one, and move all your fingers over the tumor and read “Our Father.” This needs to be done three times, after each time spitting over your left shoulder.
When they carry a dead man in a coffin down the street, try not to look out of the window of your apartment. This way you will save yourself from troubles and will not get sick.
In the church, the coffin with the body of the deceased is placed in the middle of the church facing the altar and candles are lit on four sides of the coffin.
Relatives and friends of the deceased walk around the coffin with the body, bowing and asking for forgiveness for involuntary offenses, kissing the deceased for the last time (the corolla on his forehead or the icon on his chest). After this, the entire body is covered with a sheet and the priest sprinkles earth on it in a cross shape.
When the body and coffin are taken out of the temple, the face of the deceased is turned towards the exit.
It happens that the church is located far from the home of the deceased, then a funeral service is held for him in absentia. After the funeral service, the relatives are given a chaplet, a prayer of permission and land from the funeral table.
Relatives at home right hand a prayer of permission is placed on the deceased, a paper whisk is placed on his forehead, and after saying goodbye to him, in the cemetery, his body, covered with a sheet from head to toe, as in a church, is sprinkled with earth in a cross shape (from head to feet, from right shoulder to left - so that it worked out correct form cross).
The deceased is buried facing east. The cross on the grave is placed at the feet of the buried person so that the crucifix is ​​facing the face of the deceased.
According to Christian custom, when a person is buried, his body must be interred or “sealed.” Priests do this.
The ties that bind the hands and feet of the deceased must be untied and placed in the coffin with the deceased before lowering the coffin into the grave. Otherwise, they are usually used to cause damage.
When saying goodbye to the deceased, try not to step on the towel that is placed in the cemetery near the coffin, so as not to incur damage to yourself.
If you are afraid of a dead person, hold on to his legs.
Sometimes they may throw earth from a grave into your bosom or collar, proving that this way you can avoid the fear of the dead. Don't believe it - they do it to cause damage.
When the coffin with the body of the deceased is lowered into the grave on towels, these towels must be left in the grave, and not used for various household needs or given to anyone.
When lowering the coffin with the body into the grave, all those accompanying the deceased on his last journey throw a lump of earth into it.
After the ritual of committing the body to the earth, this earth must be taken to the grave and poured out in a cross shape. And if you are lazy, don’t go to the cemetery and take the soil for this ritual from your yard, then you will do very bad things to yourself.
It is not Christian to bury a dead person with music; it should be buried with a priest.
It happens that a person was buried, but the body was not buried. You must definitely go to the grave and take a handful of earth from there, with which you can then go to church.
It is advisable, in order to avoid any troubles, to sprinkle the house or apartment where the deceased lived with blessed water. This must be done immediately after the funeral. It is also necessary to sprinkle such water on the people who participated in the funeral procession.
The funeral is over, and according to the old Christian custom, water and something from food are placed in a glass on the table to treat the soul of the deceased. Make sure that small children or adults do not inadvertently drink from this glass or eat anything. After such a treat, both adults and children begin to get sick.
During the wake, according to tradition, a glass of vodka is poured for the deceased. Don't drink it if anyone advises you to. It would be better if you poured vodka on the grave.
Returning from a funeral, it is imperative to dust off your shoes before entering the house, and also hold your hands over the fire of a lit candle. This is done in order to prevent damage to the home.
There is also this type of damage: a dead person lies in a coffin, wires are tied to his arms and legs, which are lowered into a bucket of water located under the coffin. This is how they supposedly ground the deceased. Actually this is not true. This water is later used to cause damage.
Here is another type of damage in which incompatible things are present - death and flowers.

One person gives another a bouquet of flowers. Only these flowers do not bring joy, but grief, since the bouquet, before being presented, lay on the grave all night.

If any of you has had a loved one die or dear person and you often cry for him, then I advise you to get thistle grass in your house.
To miss the deceased less, you need to take the headdress (scarf or hat) that the deceased wore, light it in front of the front door and walk around all the rooms with it one by one, reading the “Our Father” aloud. After this, take the remains of the burnt headdress out of the apartment, burn it completely and bury the ashes in the ground.
It also happens: you come to the grave of a loved one to pull out the grass, paint the fence or plant something. You start digging and unearth things that shouldn't be there. Someone outsider buried them there. In this case, take everything you find outside the cemetery and burn it, trying not to get exposed to the smoke, otherwise you may get sick yourself.

Some believe that after death, forgiveness of sins is impossible, and if a sinful person has died, nothing can be done to help him. However, the Lord himself said: “And every sin and blasphemy will be forgiven to men, but blasphemy against the Spirit will not be forgiven to men, neither in this age nor in the next.” This means that in the future life only blasphemy against the Holy Spirit will not be forgiven. Consequently, through our prayers we can have mercy on our loved ones who are deceased in body, but who are alive in soul and who did not blaspheme the Holy Spirit during their earthly life.
A memorial service and home prayer for the good deeds of the deceased, done in his memory (alms and donations to the church), are all useful for the dead. But commemoration at the Divine Liturgy is especially useful for them.
If you encounter a funeral procession on your way, you should stop, take off your headdress and cross yourself.
When they carry a dead person to the cemetery, do not throw fresh flowers on the road after him - by doing this you damage not only yourself, but also many people who step on these flowers.
After the funeral, do not visit any of your friends or relatives.
If they take earth to “seal” a dead person, under no circumstances allow this earth to be taken from under your feet.
When someone dies, try to have only women present.
If the patient is dying seriously, then for an easier death, remove the feather pillow from under his head. In villages, the dying person is laid on straw.
Make sure that the deceased's eyes are tightly closed.
Do not leave a deceased person alone in the house; as a rule, elderly women should sit next to him.
When there is a dead person in the house, you cannot drink water in the neighboring houses in the morning that was in buckets or pans. It must be poured out and freshly poured in.
When a coffin is made, a cross is made on its lid with an ax.
In the place where the deceased lay in the house, it is necessary to place an ax so that no more people die in this house for a long time.
Do not distribute the deceased’s belongings to relatives, friends or acquaintances for up to 40 days.
Under no circumstances should you put your pectoral cross.
Before burial, do not forget to remove from the deceased wedding ring. This way the widow (widower) will save herself from illness.
During the death of your loved ones or acquaintances, you must close the mirrors and not look into them after death for 40 days.
It is impossible for tears to fall on the bed. This is a heavy burden for the deceased.
After the funeral, do not allow your loved ones, acquaintances or relatives to lie on your bed under any pretext.
When a dead person is taken out of the house, make sure that none of those accompanying him on his last journey leave with his back turned.
After removing the deceased from the house, the old broom should also be removed from the house.
Before the last farewell to the deceased in the cemetery, when they lift the coffin lid, under no circumstances put your head under it.
The coffin with the deceased, as a rule, is placed in the middle of the room in front of home icons, facing the exit.
As soon as a person has died, relatives and friends must order the magpie in the church, that is, daily commemoration during the Divine Liturgy.
Under no circumstances listen to those people who advise you to wipe your body with the water in which the deceased was washed to get rid of pain.
If the wake (third, ninth, fortieth day, anniversary) falls during Lent, then in the first, fourth and seventh weeks of fasting the relatives of the deceased do not invite anyone to the funeral.

CAUTION: FUNERAL...

The cemetery is one of the dangerous places; damage is often caused in this place.

And often this happens unconsciously.
Magicians recommend keeping several in memory practical advice and warnings, then you will be reliably protected

• A woman came to one healer and said that after, on the advice of a neighbor, she threw out the bed of a deceased woman (sister), serious problems began in her family. She shouldn't have done that.

• If you see a deceased person in a coffin, do not automatically touch your body - tumors may appear that will be difficult to cure.

• If you meet someone you know at a funeral, greet them with a nod rather than a touch or handshake.

• While there is a dead person in the house, you should not wash the floors or sweep them, as this can bring disaster to the whole family.

• To preserve the body of the deceased, some recommend placing needles crosswise on his lips. This will not help preserve the body. But these needles can fall into the wrong hands and will be used to cause damage. It is better to put a bunch of sage grass in the coffin.

• For candles you need to use any new candlesticks. It is especially not recommended to use dishes from which you eat for candles at a funeral, even used empty cans. It’s better to buy new ones, and once you’ve used them, get rid of them.

• Never put photographs in a coffin. If you listen to the advice “so that he himself does not exist” and bury a photo of the entire family with the deceased, then soon all the photographed relatives risk following the deceased.

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FUNERAL SIGNS AND RITUALS.

There are many beliefs and rituals associated with the death and subsequent burial of the deceased. Some of them have survived to this day. But do we suspect their true meaning?
According to Christian custom, the dead person should lie in the grave with his head to the west and feet to the east. This is how, according to legend, the body of Christ was buried.
Even in relatively recent times, there was a concept of a “Christian” death. It implied mandatory repentance before death. In addition, cemeteries were established at church parishes. That is, only members of this parish could be buried in such a graveyard.

If a person died “without repentance” - say, took his own life, became a victim of murder or an accident, or simply did not belong to a particular parish, then a special burial order was often established for such deceased. For example, in large cities they were buried twice a year, on the feast of the Intercession of the Virgin Mary and on the seventh Thursday after Easter. Special places were allocated for the storage of such remains, called Poor Houses, pitiful houses, riots, rotting places or poor women . They set up a barn there and built a huge common grave in it. The bodies of those who died a sudden or violent death were brought here - of course, provided that there was no one who could take care of their burial. And at that time, when there was no telephone, telegraph or other means of communication, the death of a person on the road could mean that loved ones would never hear from him again. As for wanderers, beggars, and executed people, they automatically fell into the category of “clients” of the Poor Houses. Suicides and robbers were also sent here.
During the reign of Peter I, dissected corpses from hospitals began to be brought to the poor houses. By the way, illegitimate children and orphans from shelters kept at Poor Houses were also buried there - this was the practice then... The dead were guarded by a guard called "God's house" .
In Moscow there were several similar “corpse storage facilities”: for example, at the Church of St. John the Warrior, on the street, which was called Bozhedomka , at the Church of the Assumption of the Mother of God on Mogiltsy and at the Pokrovsky Monastery on Poor Houses. On the appointed days they arranged procession with a memorial service. The burial of “those who died without repentance” was carried out using donations from pilgrims.
Such a terrible practice was stopped only at the end of the 18th century, after Moscow was subjected to a plague epidemic and there was a danger of the infection spreading through unburied corpses... Cemeteries appeared in cities, and the burial procedure at church parishes was abolished. There were also many customs, signs and rituals, concerning the departure of the deceased on his last journey. Among the Russian peasants, the deceased was placed on a bench, with his head in "red corner" where the icons hung, they covered it with a white canvas (shroud), folded their hands on their chest, and the dead man had to “hold” a white handkerchief in his right hand. All this was done so that he could appear before God in the proper form. It was believed that if the dead man’s eyes remained open, then this supposedly meant the imminent death of someone else close to him. Therefore, they always tried to close the eyes of the dead - in the old days, for this purpose, copper coins were placed on them.
While the body was in the house, a knife was thrown into a tub of water - this supposedly prevented the spirit of the deceased from entering the room. Until the funeral, no one was lent anything - not even salt. The windows and doors were kept tightly closed. While the deceased was in the house, pregnant women were not allowed to cross his threshold - this could have a bad effect on the child... It was customary to close the mirrors in the house so that the deceased would not be reflected in them...
It was necessary to put underwear, a belt, a hat, bast shoes and small coins in the coffin. It was believed that things could be useful to the deceased in the next world, and the money would serve as payment for transportation to the kingdom of the dead... True, in early XIX V. this custom took on a different meaning. If during a funeral a coffin with previously buried remains was accidentally dug up, then money was supposed to be thrown into the grave - a “contribution” for the new “neighbor”. If a child died, they always put a belt on him so that he could collect fruits in the Garden of Eden in his bosom...
When the coffin was carried out, it was supposed to touch the threshold of the hut and the entryway three times in order to receive a blessing from the deceased. At the same time, some old woman showered the coffin and those accompanying with grains. If the head of the family, the owner or mistress, died, then all the gates and doors in the house were tied with red thread so that the household would not follow the owner.

They buried him on the third day, when the soul should have finally flown away from the body. This custom has survived to this day, as well as the one that instructs everyone present to throw a handful of earth onto the coffin lowered into the grave. The earth is a symbol of purification; in ancient times it was believed that it absorbed all the filth that a person had accumulated during his life. In addition, among the pagans, this rite restored the connection of the newly deceased with the entire family.
In Rus', it has long been believed that if it rains during a funeral, the soul of the deceased will fly safely to heaven. Like, if the rain cries for a dead man, it means he was a good person...
Modern wakes were once called funeral feasts. This was a special ritual designed to facilitate the transition to another world. For the funeral feast, special funeral dishes were prepared: kutya, which is hard-cooked rice with raisins. Kutya is supposed to be treated to a meal in the cemetery immediately after the burial. Russian funerals are also not complete without pancakes - pagan symbols of the Sun.
And these days, during wakes, they place a glass of vodka on the table, covered with a crust of bread, for the deceased. There is also a belief: if any food falls from the table at a wake, you cannot pick it up - this is a sin.
On forties, honey and water were placed in front of the icons so that the deceased would have a sweeter life in the next world. Sometimes they baked a staircase the length of an arshin from wheat flour to help the deceased ascend to heaven... Alas, now this custom is no longer observed.

Signs of antiquity: about the dead and funerals.

The most important events in the life of any person are birth and death, and life is located right between them in the middle. Some people live short lives, others die very old. But both of them, during life, behave as if there was no death at all. However, death, as always, comes unexpectedly, and along with the death of a person close to you comes the hassle of burying him. At funerals, black witches and sorcerers tend to cast spells to make your life even harder. We will tell you how to protect yourself from their influence in this article.

The most important rule: during a funeral you cannot cry or scream - it’s better to pray for the deceased, this way you will help his soul. At the very moment of separation of the soul from the body, read the Canon of Prayer to the Mother of God. A loved one should bend over to the dying person and quietly say the following prayer in his ear: “Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me. In Your hands, Lord Jesus, I commend my spirit; Lord Jesus, receive my spirit.”

Sometimes a person who is still alive prepares his own coffin in advance. To prevent this “product” from contributing to the speedy death of a person, it used to be filled with grain, shavings, sawdust, which, after the death of a person, were also supposed to be buried in a hole.

The dead person’s measurement is not placed on the bed - try to take it out of the house altogether, and during the funeral, place it in the coffin. There should not be any silver items on the body of the deceased. The reason for this is quite simple: silver is used to fight against evil spirits that might “disturb” his body.

The deceased is washed with warm water. During this process, you need to read the “Trisagion”: “Holy God, Holy Mighty, Holy Immortal, have mercy on us” or “Lord, have mercy.” Having finished washing, the body of the deceased is dressed in clean and light clothes, and a cross is placed on the chest of the deceased. The water used to wash the deceased is often damaged by the “blacks”. Such water is called “dead” - which is why it must be handled very carefully. Dig a hole in a place where people don’t walk - and pour everything there, and then cover it with earth. On dead water they can even “make” cancer: therefore, do not give it to anyone, no matter who approaches you with such a request.

Under no circumstances should the relatives and friends of the deceased make a coffin. The shavings that formed after work must be buried or thrown away with water. Burning shavings is prohibited.

Many people throw away the bed on which the deceased slept - don’t do this. Take her to the chicken coop to lie there for three nights - the rooster will crow three times.

Until the dead person is taken out of the house, you cannot sweep, no matter how much dirt there is in the house. According to old beliefs, by doing this you can easily bring great trouble to your family.

You don’t need to listen to those people who advise you to put two needles crosswise on the lips of the deceased (to supposedly preserve his body). You definitely won’t be able to save the body of a dead man, and the needles you put in will disappear - they are used by black witches and sorcerers to inflict damage.

A bunch of sage is placed at the head of the deceased (so that there is no bad smell), and “cornflowers” ​​are placed at the feet (they ward off evil spirits). You can also use holy willow for this.

And, finally, most importantly, do not listen to any “kind” aunts and uncles, no matter what they tell you - this way you will save yourself and your family from many troubles.

The world is changing, and so are we. Many are returning to the Christian faith for consolation and hope. It has become customary to celebrate Christian holidays.
Christmas, Epiphany, Holy Trinity, Parents' Days... However, either out of ignorance or for other reasons, old traditions are often replaced by new ones.

Unfortunately, today there are no issues more shrouded in all kinds of speculation and prejudice than issues related to the burial of the dead and their commemoration.
What the all-knowing old ladies won’t say!

But there is appropriate Orthodox literature, which is not difficult to acquire. For example, in all Orthodox parishes of our city they sell
brochure "Orthodox Commemoration of the Dead", in which you can find answers to many questions.
The main thing that we MUST understand: deceased loved ones first of all need
in prayers for them. Thank God, in our time there is a place to pray. In every district of the city
kind of opened up Orthodox parishes, new churches are being built.

This is what is said about the funeral meal in the brochure “Orthodox Commemoration”
deceased:

IN Orthodox tradition eating food is a continuation of worship. Since early Christian times, relatives and acquaintances of the deceased gathered together on special days of remembrance in order to ask the Lord in joint prayer for a better fate for the soul of the deceased in the afterlife.

After visiting the church and cemetery, the relatives of the deceased arranged a memorial meal, to which not only relatives were invited, but mainly those in need: the poor and needy.
That is, a wake is a kind of alms for those gathered.

The first dish is kutya - boiled wheat grains with honey or boiled rice with raisins, which are blessed at a memorial service in the temple.

There should be no alcohol at the funeral table. The custom of drinking alcohol is an echo of pagan funeral feasts.
Firstly, Orthodox funerals are not only (and not the main thing) food, but also prayer, and prayer and a drunken mind are incompatible things.
Secondly, on the days of remembrance, we intercede with the Lord for the improvement of the afterlife fate of the deceased, for the forgiveness of his earthly sins. But will the Supreme Judge listen to the words of drunken intercessors?
Thirdly, “drinking is joy of the soul.” And after drinking a glass, our mind scatters, switches to other topics, grief for the deceased leaves our hearts, and quite often it happens that by the end of the wake, many forget why they gathered - the wake ends with an ordinary feast with a discussion of everyday problems and political news, and sometimes worldly songs.

And at this time, the languishing soul of the deceased waits in vain for prayerful support from his loved ones. And for this sin of unmercifulness towards the deceased, the Lord will exact from them at His judgment. What, compared to this, is condemnation from neighbors for the absence of alcohol at the funeral table?

Instead of the common atheistic phrase “May he rest in peace,” pray briefly:
“O Lord, rest the soul of Your newly departed servant (name), and forgive him all his sins, voluntary and involuntary, and grant him the Kingdom of Heaven.”
This prayer must be performed before starting the next dish.

There is no need to remove forks from the table - this makes no sense.

There is no need to place cutlery in honor of the deceased, or even worse, place vodka in a glass with a piece of bread in front of the portrait. All this is the sin of paganism.

Particularly a lot of gossip is caused by curtaining mirrors, supposedly in order to avoid the reflection of the coffin with the deceased in them and thereby protect against the appearance of another deceased in the house. The absurdity of this opinion is that the coffin can be reflected in any shiny object, but you can’t cover everything in the house.

But the main thing is that our life and death do not depend on any signs, but are in the hands of God.

If the funeral takes place in fast days, then the food should be lean.

If the commemoration took place during Lent, then commemorations are not held on weekdays. They are postponed to the next (forward) Saturday or Sunday...
If memorial days fell on the 1st, 4th and 7th weeks of Lent (the strictest weeks), then the closest relatives are invited to the funeral.

Memorial days falling on Bright Week (the first week after Easter) and on Monday of the second Easter week are transferred to Radonitsa - Tuesday of the second week after Easter (Parents' Day).

Funerals on the 3rd, 9th and 40th days are organized for relatives, relatives, friends and acquaintances of the deceased. You can come to such funerals to honor the deceased without an invitation. On other days of remembrance, only the closest relatives gather.
It is useful these days to give alms to the poor and needy.

Let's start with the fact that the icon is placed in the coffin only of an Orthodox Christian who has gone through the rite of baptism. When the time comes for a person to leave this sinful world, he should be prepared for the long path to the Kingdom of Heaven. To begin with, the body is washed and wrapped in linen, on which it is customary to depict a crucifixion. This is considered a symbol that the deceased was a believer and joyfully surrenders his soul to God.

In addition, you should take care of purchasing a special funeral set from the church. All of its items must be used during the farewell ceremony. It is also customary to put in the coffin, in addition to the indicated set, things that the deceased often used. These could be personal hygiene products or items that he treasured very much.

In some places, it is customary to provide the deceased with food and even drinks, including alcoholic drinks, on their last journey. Representatives of the church do not approve of this approach, but still the right to decide whether to do this or not belongs to the relatives themselves.

If the deceased committed suicide, was noticed in witchcraft, or simply was not baptized, then he is not buried and an icon is not placed in the coffin - in this case, an aspen cross, incense and an Easter cross are placed.

Some people doubt whether it is possible to put a pectoral cross on the deceased. If a person has lived his entire life with faith in God, then the cross must be with him on his final journey.

The icon must be present in the coffin. If a man is buried, then, as a rule, they put the face of the Savior, and for women - an icon of the Mother of God. But this is not an immutable rule. An icon of the saint whom the deceased most revered during his lifetime or an image of a named saint may be placed in the coffin. Sometimes it is practiced to use the icon of the saint on whose day the funeral takes place.

For what purpose is this being done? The soul, on its long journey to the Kingdom of Heaven, needs an accompanying person, and so this is the saint who will be placed in the left hand of the deceased and will fulfill this role.

Sometimes the icon that was placed with the deceased is taken out after the funeral service until the lid is closed. And there is nothing reprehensible in this. You can keep this icon at home. Later in life, on the days of commemoration of the deceased, it is taken out and a lamp or candle is lit in front of it.

The icon can either be left in the coffin or taken out of it - the main thing is that it remains next to the deceased throughout the entire funeral service. In this case, she will leave her body without any problems and go to another world to her ancestors, and her relatives will keep in their hearts the bright memory of a person close to them until the end of their days.

So what is the right thing to do?

There are two possible answers to this question:

1. Formal.
2. Informal.

Formally, it is not an icon that is supposed to be placed in the hands of the deceased, but a cross. The icon is placed next to the body so that during the farewell process before closing the coffin, relatives can kiss it after the “last kiss” on the aureole attached to the forehead of the deceased in Bose. The icon is taken from the coffin. It can be kept in the house of close relatives, or it can be given to a temple.

Informally, in our opinion, this very formulation of the question is incorrect. It will be correct to do what the relatives want to do, because it doesn’t matter to the deceased, and especially to God, whether this or that thing was put in the coffin or not.

When celebrating ecumenical parental Saturdays, at Matins (which many for some reason consider not very important, preferring a memorial service), the law of God is read. In it we turn to the Savior with a request to remember all those who died peacefully and those who died in any other way:

• Burnt.
• Drowned.
• Crushed by “plinth” (brick).
• Bitten by reptiles.
• Torn to pieces by forest animals.
• Killed by other elements.

The main motive of all appeals is the request to remember and forgive all sins, whether they were committed freely or due to circumstances independent of the person.

Nowhere is there even the slightest hint of how important it is to observe the correct burial ritual. Sometimes the reverend abbots on their deathbeds told the brethren to drag their body into a swamp and throw it there. This was not said for the sake of a catchphrase or to make an impression, but because they were full of awareness of how vanity everything earthly and transitory is.

Since ancient times, the Orthodox funeral tradition has had the custom of funeral preparations. First, ablution is performed, then the relatives dress the deceased and cover him with a special cloth depicting the crucifixion. Next comes the funeral service and farewell of loved ones to the deceased. It is customary to place certain objects in the coffin, among which are icons. Questions are often asked: where did the tradition of putting icons in a coffin come from and what to do with them after the funeral.

Why is the deceased buried with his belongings?

The custom of placing various things in a coffin along with the deceased arose in ancient times and is practiced in many cultures. Historically, it is associated with belief in the afterlife: it is assumed that objects buried with the body are necessary for a person in the afterlife. In Christianity, it is permissible to place objects in the coffin that were of particular importance to a person during life, however, such a gesture is only symbolic and does not imply that the person enters the other world along with these objects. In addition, the Orthodox funeral canon provides for a special funeral set.

Why do Orthodox Christians place an icon in the coffin of a deceased person?

One of the features Orthodox canon burial is that an icon must be placed in the coffin. The meaning of the custom, first of all, is to indicate that the deceased was a baptized person and a believer. If the deceased is a man, they put an image of the Savior; if a woman, an image of the Mother of God.

It is also permissible to place an icon depicting a saint whom the deceased especially revered during his lifetime or considered his patron. It is believed that the saint depicted on the icon should accompany the soul of the deceased to heaven, therefore it is necessary that the icon be with the deceased during the funeral service.

In what case is it forbidden to bring an icon to the coffin?

Since the tradition of bringing an icon to the deceased is associated with the funeral service, in cases where the funeral service cannot be held, icons are not placed in the coffin. This happens if the deceased was not baptized or committed suicide. For such cases, a different set of objects is provided that are placed in the coffin with the deceased, but there should not be an icon among them.

How to place an icon correctly?

Many have seen the deceased with an icon in their hands, however, according to the canon, a cross should be placed there. The icon should be placed on the side of the body - this is necessary so that it is easier for the relatives of the deceased to venerate it before the coffin is finally closed. According to the canon, the icon is kissed only after the crown on the head of the deceased has been honored with the “last kiss”. The most important thing is that the icon be close to the body of the deceased during the funeral service.

What to do with the icon from the coffin after the funeral?

There are many informal options for what to do with the coffin icon once the funeral is over.

Devout people leave it in the temple where the funeral service was held, or they assign the temple in honor of the saint who is depicted on the icon. Others leave it in the church for 40 days, while the soul of the deceased goes through ordeals and ascends to Heaven, after which they take it to themselves. The icon that was placed in the coffin along with the deceased is allowed to be kept at home and, moreover, placed together with others on the iconostasis. It is believed that on days when the deceased is commemorated, it should be placed separately and a lamp or candle should be lit.

Is it possible to bury an icon with the deceased?

It is important to know that there is no prohibition from the church in this regard. Those who buried their loved ones with icons need not worry. According to the rector of one of the Moscow churches, this is permissible, since the deceased is already buried together in a veil with an image of Jesus Christ and a forehead aureole with images of icons. In addition, St. Seraphim of Sarov personally bequeathed that his bodies should be interred with the icon “Appearance Holy Mother of God St. Sergius Radonezh,” and this elder could not ask for what was sinful.

Thus, whether to keep the icon from the coffin after the funeral is a personal matter for the relatives of the deceased. If it will serve as a spiritual guide, a connection with this person, a guide for good wishes for the soul of the deceased, it should not only be preserved, but also regularly taken out for prayer and veneration. If the grief over the loss is so strong that every reminder of the deceased causes inconsolable grief, you should not torment yourself, but with a light soul, let go of the memory of the deceased, burying the icon in the ground.

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Funeral.
According to Christian rules, the deceased should be buried in a coffin. In it he will rest (keep) until the future resurrection. The grave of the deceased must be kept clean, respectful and orderly. After all, even the Mother of God was placed in a coffin, and the coffin was left in the grave until the day when the Lord called His Mother to Himself.

The clothes in which a person died should not be given to either one’s own or strangers. Mostly it is burned. If relatives are against this and want to wash their clothes and put them away, then that is their right. But it should be remembered that under no circumstances should these clothes be worn for 40 days.

The deceased is washed the same hour after death, until it has completely cooled down. Soap is usually left behind. It helps in many matters and from troubles. But you have to be careful, because using this soap can also cause harm to other people.

They usually dress in new clothes that are appropriate, neither too big nor too small. If there are no new clothes, then they put on only clean ones.

You should not wear clothes that have sweat and blood on them. This could lead to another death.

If a person, while still alive, asked him to wear what he wanted, then his wish must be fulfilled.

Military personnel are usually dressed in military uniform. The front-line soldiers ask for orders to be put on them, because anyway they will be lost or thrown out many years later, but they deserve them and are proud of them. In general, this is a purely personal family issue.

There must be a white blanket with which the deceased is covered. A crown with the image of Jesus Christ, the Mother of God, and John the Baptist is placed on the forehead. On the crown are words in the old style, this is the writing of the Trisagion Song. A cross or icon should be placed in your hands.

If it is not possible to invite a minister from the church, then take care in advance to invite older people to read psalms and serve a memorial service. Psalms are usually read without interruption. They are interrupted only during the funeral service.

Such prayers are a consolation for those who grieve for the dead. In addition, you should read this prayer:

Remember, Lord God, in faith and hope, the eternal life of Your servant, our brother (name), and as Goodness and love for mankind, forgive sins and consume untruths, weaken, forgive and forgive all his voluntary and involuntary sins, deliver him from eternal torment and fire Gehenna and grant him the communion and enjoyment of Your eternal good things, prepared for those who love You, even if they have sinned, but have not departed from You, and undoubtedly in the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, God glorified by You in the Trinity, faith and Unity in the Trinity and the Trinity in Unity , gloriously, even to his last sigh of confession.

Be merciful to him in the same way, and I believe in You. Instead of works of imputation, and with Thy saints, as generous, rest: for there is no man who will live and not sin. But You are the only God, besides One God of mercies and generosity, and love for mankind, and to You we send up glory, to the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, now, ever and ever. Amen.

At the end of three days, it is necessary to take the deceased to church for a funeral service. But gradually they did not adhere to this, and the deceased spent the night at home not for three days, but for one night. Four candles are placed on the coffin in the corners, changing them as they burn.

All the time since the day of death there has been a glass of water and a piece of bread, millet is poured into a saucer. You need to be careful during a funeral. Usually relatives have no time for this. But you can stipulate who will keep order, since it is no secret that a lot is done at a funeral: they remove damage, put photos of enemies in the coffin, try to take hair, nails, strings from hands and feet, etc.

Under the pretext of “touching their feet”, so as not to be afraid, they do the necessary things. They ask for the stool on which the coffin stood, flowers from the wreath, and water. It's up to you to decide whether to give it all or not. Blood relatives should not wash the floor in the house where the deceased lay.

Relatives are not allowed to walk in front of the coffin, carry wreaths, or drink wine. It is allowed to lament and eat kutya or pancake after the burial.

At the cemetery they give the last kiss to the crown on the forehead and hands. Fresh flowers and an icon are taken from the coffin. Make sure that the icon is not buried.

People often ask whether it is possible to wear watches and gold. If you have already put on your watch, do not take it off for anything. There is no harm in the fact that a dead person has a watch on his hand. But if you remove the watch from a dead hand, turn the hands back, cast a spell on some person, then it won’t be that long of a wait until that person dies. Regarding jewelry: if you don’t mind, then there’s nothing wrong with wearing it on a deceased person.

When saying goodbye, the face is covered. The lid is hammered in and the coffin is lowered. Usually on towels. Towels are distributed to people. But it’s better not to take them, you might get sick.

The coffin is lowered so that the deceased lies facing east. They throw money into the grave, a payoff for the deceased: the relatives throw it first. Then they throw the earth. Not only a funeral service is necessary, but also commemorations, which are done upon returning from the cemetery and which are repeated on the third, ninth and fortieth day and every year.

If you realize you made a mistake during the funeral, be sure to tell her off!

My words are repeated, you are church domes, you are silver bells. An Tyn, Khaba, Uru, Cha, Chabash, you are dead spirits. Do not call to my world, but to your own world, do not look, do not seek. I will gird myself with the light of God. I will baptize myself with the Holy Cross. My Lord is Great. Now, forever. Forever and ever. Amen.

How to ask forgiveness from a deceased person during burial.

Sometimes it becomes necessary to rebury a deceased person. But it is unlikely that the one who conceived and executed it understands what act he is committing. People are accustomed to thinking of a dead person as some kind of object that does not see, hear or feel, and therefore, you can do whatever you want with him, without incurring any responsibility, and that any actions with the dead body will remain unpunished. But that's not true. The body is a vessel where, by the grace of Jesus Christ, the immortal soul of a deceased person resided for a long time. When the body of the deceased is buried, it finds its home, or, as they used to say, a home.

They also say that it is difficult for the deceased to get used to his new home. And only after forty days after the death of a person, when his soul leaves the earth forever, the body it left behind goes into the kingdom of spirits. The abandoned, motionless body is preparing to pass into decay. For it is said: from dust he came and to dust he will go.

A sacred place where, until the Day of Judgment, the flesh that carried blood, mind and soul is kept, the sacred peace that was earned by the one who left this world in which he loved, suffered, worked, endured pain, raised children .

You can talk an insane amount about each dead person and still say absolutely nothing.

Arriving at the cemetery and peering at the monuments, seeing the faces of living people, you want to scream: My God! After all, each of them is a whole world. And in each of them this world died...

So think about whether you should disturb the peace of the deceased by digging up his ashes touched by decay in order to transport them to another, from your point of view, better place. Better than?

You cannot make your soul cry again over a body that has been disturbed by people. May it rest in peace. In addition, if the spirit of the dead is disturbed and does not accept a new place, there will be trouble. The spirit of the dead will punish those who came up with the idea of ​​burying the coffin in an elite cemetery.

If this does happen, you need to protect yourself from possible disaster.

At the new burial site, read this plot forty times. You have to read it while standing at the foot of the grave.

In the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. Keep, O Lord, the soul of Your deceased servant (name) in Your kingdom. Don’t let this dead soul walk on earth, don’t let this dead soul harm living souls. Saint Lazarus, did you walk on earth after death? And he walked the earth after death and never harmed living people. So that the soul of the deceased slave (name) no longer walks the earth and does not harm living people forever and ever. Key, lock, tongue. Amen.

You should leave the grave without looking back. At home, eat kutya and drink jelly.

Mark yourself with a cross and say a prayer to the Honorable Cross:

May God rise again, and may His enemies be scattered, and may those who hate Him flee from His presence. As smoke disappears, let them disappear; just as wax melts in the face of fire, so let demons perish from the face of those who love God and are marked by the sign of the cross, and in joy say: Rejoice, Most Honorable and Life-Giving Cross of the Lord, drive away demons by the power of our drunken Lord Jesus Christ, who descended into hell and trampled down the power of the devil, and gave us His Honest Cross to drive away every adversary.

Oh, Most Honorable and Life-Giving Cross of the Lord! Help me with the Holy Virgin Mary and with all the saints forever. Amen.

From longing for the deceased.

Get up at night, go to the mirror and, looking into your pupils, say:

Don’t be sad, don’t grieve, don’t shed tears! Night Mother, take the melancholy away from me. As the dawn takes you away, so take away my melancholy. Now and ever and unto ages of ages.

After this, wash your face and go to bed. The next day you will feel better. Do this three times and the melancholy will go away.
How to remove damage done at a funeral.

At night, burn incense on the coals, saying:

How this incense burns and melts so that it burns, and the grave illness disappears from the servant of God (name). Amen.

If a person turns his kutya over on himself.

From the letter: “For some time now I began to believe in omens, and how could I not believe them if I myself became an eyewitness to the fact that they come true. This is why I decided to write to you: a grandfather in our family died, and my aunt accidentally spilled the funeral kutya on herself, all the food they had prepared for the entire memorial! Kutya had to be cooked again, and my aunt died forty days after the funeral, day after day!”

Indeed, if during a funeral someone’s candle falls or a piece of bread and a glass of water placed for the deceased falls directly onto the lap of a sitting person, then this person will soon die.

If this, God forbid, happens, I advise, just in case, to reprimand the person out of trouble with a special spell that I give in this book.

Read the plot before sunrise:

In the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. Soul, body, spirit and all five senses. I protect the soul, I protect the body, I release the Spirit, I protect the feeling. The Lord God gave the commandment, the Lord God protected him and said: “Evil will not come to you, the wound will not come close to your body.” My angels will sing about you, both on earth and in heaven. The true Lord spoke the truth. He sent a savior and guardian angel. Angel of God, throughout my life, hour by hour, day by day, save, preserve and have mercy on me. I believe in One Father and Son and Holy Spirit. Now and ever and unto ages of ages. Amen.

If the deceased was buried not at lunchtime, but after sunset, then exactly seven years later there will be a new coffin.

Children under one year of age are not taken to funerals and are not fed from the funeral table.

If at a funeral they give you part of the towel on which the coffin was lowered into the grave, do not take it. The towel should be left in the grave and not given to people. Whoever uses it will get sick.

Sometimes at a memorial service someone suggests singing the deceased person’s favorite song and everyone sings without hesitation. But it has long been noticed that those who sing at the funeral table soon begin to get sick, and those who have a weak guardian angel generally die early.

Do not borrow anything from a family where the deceased person has not been remembered for forty days. Otherwise, you will have a coffin in the same year.

According to custom, people sit around the coffin all night. Make sure that none of those sitting at the coffin sleeps or dozes. Otherwise, you will “sleep” another dead person. If something like this does happen, then it should be dismissed.

After the funeral, the bathhouse is not heated. On this day you should not wash yourself completely, just wash your face and hands. You should especially be wary of requests from strangers to wash themselves after a funeral in your bathhouse or bathtub.

Questions are often asked about commemorations that coincide with Lent. You need to know that commemorations in the first, fourth and seventh weeks of Lent are done only during fasting and strangers are never invited to the commemoration at this time.

It is a very bad omen when the first person carrying the coffin leaves the apartment with his back turned. You need to take care of this in advance and warn those who will carry the coffin so that they leave the apartment facing the exit, and not with their backs.

They don’t move the coffin in the house, they don’t find a convenient place for it. Think in advance about where to put it so you don’t have to move it from place to place.

ABOUT THE DECEASED AND FUNERALS.

How to see off a loved one on their last journey without harming yourself and your loved ones? Usually this sad event takes us by surprise, and we get lost listening to everyone and following their advice. But, as it turns out, not everything is so simple. Sometimes people use this sad event to harm you. Therefore, remember how to properly escort a person on his final journey.

At the moment of death, a person experiences a painful feeling of fear as the soul leaves the body. When leaving the body, the soul meets the Guardian Angel given to it during Holy Baptism, and demons. Relatives and friends of the dying person should try to ease his mental suffering by prayer, but under no circumstances should they scream or cry loudly.

At the moment of separation of the soul from the body, it is necessary to read the Canon of Prayer to the Mother of God. When reading the Canon, a dying Christian holds a lighted candle or a holy cross in his hand. If he does not have the strength to make the sign of the cross, one of his relatives does this, leaning towards the dying person and clearly saying: “Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me. In Your hands, Lord Jesus, I commend my spirit, Lord Jesus, my spirit.”

You can sprinkle holy water on a dying person with the words: “The grace of the Holy Spirit, who has sanctified this water, deliver your soul from all evil.”

According to church custom, the dying person asks for forgiveness from those present and forgives them himself.

Not often, but it still happens that a person prepares his own coffin in advance. It is usually stored in the attic. In this case, pay attention to the following: the coffin is empty, and since it is made according to a person’s standards, he begins to “pull” it into himself. And a person, as a rule, dies faster. Previously, to prevent this from happening, sawdust, shavings, and grain were poured into the empty coffin. After the death of a person, sawdust, shavings and grain were also buried in the hole. After all, if you feed a bird with such grain, it will become sick.

When a person has died and measurements are taken from him to make a coffin, under no circumstances should this measurement be placed on the bed. It is best to take it out of the house and put it in a coffin during the funeral.

Be sure to remove all silver objects from the deceased: after all, this is precisely the metal that is used to fight the “evil ones.” Therefore, the latter can “disturb” the body of the deceased.

The body of the deceased is washed immediately after death. Washing occurs as a sign of the spiritual purity and integrity of the life of the deceased, and also so that he appears in purity before the face of God after the resurrection. Ablution should cover all parts of the body.

You need to wash your body with warm, not hot water, so as not to steam it. When they wash the body, they read: “Holy God, Holy Mighty, Holy Immortal, have mercy on us” or “Lord, have mercy.”

To make it more convenient to wash the deceased, an oilcloth is laid on the floor or bench and covered with a sheet. The body of a deceased person is placed on top. Take one bowl with clean water and the other with soap. Using a sponge dipped in soapy water, wash the entire body, starting from the face and ending with the feet, then wash with clean water and dry with a towel. Lastly, they wash the head and comb the deceased’s hair.

After washing, the deceased is dressed in new, light, clean clothes. They must put a cross on the deceased if he did not have one.

It is advisable that ablution takes place during daylight hours - from sunrise to sunset. Water after ablution must be handled very carefully. It is necessary to dig a hole far from the yard, vegetable garden and living quarters, where people do not walk, and pour everything, to the last drop, there and cover it with earth.

The fact is that very strong damage is done in the water in which the deceased was washed. In particular, this water can give a person cancer. Therefore, do not give this water to anyone, no matter who approaches you with such a request.

Try not to spill this water around the apartment so that those living in it do not get sick.

Pregnant women should not wash the deceased to avoid illness in the unborn child, as well as women who are menstruating.

As a rule, only elderly women prepare the deceased for his last journey.

Relatives and friends should not make a coffin.

It is best to bury the shavings formed during the manufacture of the coffin in the ground or, in extreme cases, throw them into water, but do not burn them.

The bed on which a person died does not need to be thrown away, as many do. Just take her out to the chicken coop and let her lie there for three nights so that, as the legend goes, the rooster will sing her song three times.

When a deceased person is placed in a coffin, the coffin must be sprinkled with holy water both inside and out, and you can also sprinkle it with incense.

A whisk is placed on the forehead of the deceased. It is given in the church at the funeral service.

A pillow, usually made of cotton wool, is placed under the feet and head of the deceased. The body is covered with a sheet.

The coffin is placed in the middle of the room in front of the icons, turning the face of the deceased with his head towards the icons.

When you see a dead person in a coffin, do not automatically touch your body with your hands. Otherwise, in the place where you touched, various skin growths in the form of a tumor may grow.

If there is a dead person in the house, then when you meet your friend or relatives there, you should greet with a bow of the head, and not with your voice.

While there is a dead person in the house, you should not sweep the floor, as this will bring trouble to your family (illness or worse).

If there is a dead person in the house, do not do any laundry.

Do not place two needles crosswise on the lips of the deceased, supposedly to preserve the body from decomposition. This will not save the body of the deceased, but the needles that were on his lips will definitely disappear; they are used to cause damage.

To prevent a heavy smell from coming from the deceased, you can put a bunch of dry sage at his head, popularly called “cornflowers”. It also serves another purpose - it drives away “evil spirits.”

For the same purposes, you can use willow branches, which are blessed on Palm Sunday and kept behind the images. These branches can be placed under the deceased,

It happens that a deceased person has already been placed in a coffin, but the bed on which he died has not yet been taken out. Acquaintances or strangers may come up to you and ask permission to lie on the bed of the deceased so that their back and bones do not hurt. Don't allow this, don't harm yourself.

Do not put fresh flowers in the coffin so that the deceased does not have a strong smell. For this purpose, use artificial or, as a last resort, dried flowers.

A candle is lit near the coffin as a sign that the deceased has moved to the realm of light - a better afterlife.

For three days, the Psalter is read over the deceased.

The Psalter is read continuously over the Christian’s tomb until the deceased remains unburied.

A lamp or candle is lit in the house, which burns as long as the deceased is in the house.

It happens that glasses with wheat are used instead of a candlestick. This wheat is often used to cause damage; it is also not allowed to bark poultry or livestock.

The hands and feet of the deceased are tied. The hands are folded so that the right one is on top. An icon or cross is placed in the left hand of the deceased; for men - the image of the savior, for women - the image of the Mother of God. Or you can do this: in the left hand - a cross, and on the chest of the deceased - a Holy image.

Make sure that someone else's things are not placed under the deceased. If you notice this, then you need to pull them out of the coffin and burn them somewhere far away.

Sometimes, out of ignorance, some heartbroken mothers put photographs of their children in the coffin of their grandparents. After this, the child begins to get sick, and if help is not provided promptly, death may occur.

It happens that there is a dead person in the house, but there are no suitable clothes for him, and then one of the family members gives his things. The deceased is buried, and the one who gave away his things begins to get sick.

The coffin is taken out of the house, turning the face of the deceased towards the exit. When the body is carried out, the mourners sing a song in honor of the Holy Trinity: “Holy God, Holy Mighty, Holy Immortal, have mercy on us.”

It happens that when a coffin with a deceased person is taken out of the house, someone stands near the door and begins to tie knots in rags, explaining that he is tying the knots so that no more coffins are taken out of this house. Although such a person has something completely different on his mind. Try to take these rags away from him.

If a pregnant woman goes to a funeral, she will do harm to herself. It's possible that a sick child will be born. Therefore, try to stay at home during this time, and it is necessary to say goodbye to someone close to you in advance - before the funeral.

When a dead person is being carried to a cemetery, do not cross his path under any circumstances, as various tumors may form on your body. If this happens, then you should take the hand of the deceased, always the right one, and move all your fingers over the tumor and read “Our Father.” This needs to be done three times, after each time spitting over your left shoulder.

When they carry a dead man in a coffin down the street, try not to look out of the window of your apartment. This way you will save yourself from troubles and will not get sick.

In the church, the coffin with the body of the deceased is placed in the middle of the church facing the altar and candles are lit on four sides of the coffin.

Relatives and friends of the deceased walk around the coffin with the body, bowing and asking for forgiveness for involuntary offenses, kissing the deceased for the last time (the corolla on his forehead or the icon on his chest). After this, the entire body is covered with a sheet and the priest sprinkles it with earth in a cross shape.

When the body and coffin are taken out of the temple, the face of the deceased is turned towards the exit.

It happens that the church is located far from the house of the deceased, then a funeral service is held for him in absentia. After the funeral service, the relatives are given a chaplet, a prayer of permission and land from the funeral table.

At home, relatives place a prayer of permission in the right hand of the deceased, a paper whisk on his forehead, and after saying goodbye to him, in the cemetery, his body, covered with a sheet from head to toe, as in a church, is sprinkled with earth in a cross shape (from head to feet, from the right shoulder to the left - to form a cross of the correct shape).

The deceased is buried facing east. The cross on the grave is placed at the feet of the buried person so that the crucifix is ​​facing the face of the deceased.

According to Christian custom, when a person is buried, his body must be interred or “sealed.” Priests do this.

The ties that bind the hands and feet of the deceased must be untied and placed in the coffin with the deceased before lowering the coffin into the grave. Otherwise, they are usually used to cause damage.

When saying goodbye to the deceased, try not to step on the towel that is placed in the cemetery near the coffin, so as not to incur damage to yourself.

If you are afraid of a dead person, hold on to his legs.

Sometimes they may throw earth from a grave into your bosom or collar, proving that this way you can avoid the fear of the dead. Don't believe it - they do it to cause damage.

When the coffin with the body of the deceased is lowered into the grave on towels, these towels must be left in the grave, and not used for various household needs or given to anyone.

When lowering the coffin with the body into the grave, all those accompanying the deceased on his last journey throw a lump of earth into it.

After the ritual of committing the body to the earth, this earth must be taken to the grave and poured out in a cross shape. And if you are lazy, don’t go to the cemetery and take the soil for this ritual from your yard, then you will do very bad things to yourself.

It is not Christian to bury a dead person with music; it should be buried with a priest.

It happens that a person was buried, but the body was not buried. You must definitely go to the grave and take a handful of earth from there, with which you can then go to church.

It is advisable, in order to avoid any troubles, to sprinkle the house or apartment where the deceased lived with blessed water. This must be done immediately after the funeral. It is also necessary to sprinkle such water on the people who participated in the funeral procession.

The funeral is over, and according to the old Christian custom, water and something from food are placed in a glass on the table to treat the soul of the deceased. Make sure that small children or adults do not inadvertently drink from this glass or eat anything. After such a treat, both adults and children begin to get sick.

During the wake, according to tradition, a glass of vodka is poured for the deceased. Don't drink it if anyone advises you to. It would be better if you poured vodka on the grave.

Returning from a funeral, it is imperative to dust off your shoes before entering the house, and also hold your hands over the fire of a lit candle. This is done in order to prevent damage to the home.

There is also this type of damage: a dead person lies in a coffin, wires are tied to his arms and legs, which are lowered into a bucket of water located under the coffin. This is how they supposedly ground the deceased. Actually this is not true. This water is subsequently used to cause damage.

Here is another type of damage in which incompatible things are present - death and flowers.

One person gives another a bouquet of flowers. Only these flowers do not bring joy, but grief, since the bouquet, before being given, lay on the grave all night.

If one of you has lost a loved one or loved one and you often cry for him, then I advise you to get thistle grass in your house.

In order to miss the deceased less, you need to take the headdress (scarf or hat) that the deceased wore, light it in front of the front door and walk around all the rooms with it one by one, reading the “Our Father” aloud. After this, take out the remains of the burnt headdress from the apartment, burn it completely and bury the ashes in the ground.

It also happens: you come to the grave of a loved one to pull out the grass, paint the fence or plant something. You start digging and unearth things that shouldn't be there. Someone outsider buried them there. In this case, take everything you find outside the cemetery and burn it, trying not to get exposed to the smoke, otherwise you may get sick yourself.

Some believe that after death, forgiveness of sins is impossible, and if a sinful person has died, nothing can be done to help him. However, the Lord himself said: “And all sin and blasphemy will be forgiven to men, but blasphemy against the Spirit will not be forgiven to men, neither in this age nor in the next.” This means that in the future life only blasphemy against the Holy Spirit will not be forgiven. Consequently, through our prayers we can have mercy on our deceased bodies, but our loved ones who are alive in soul and who did not blaspheme the Holy Spirit during their earthly life.

A memorial service and home prayer for the good deeds of the deceased, performed in his memory (alms and donations to the church), are all useful for the dead. But commemoration at the Divine Liturgy is especially useful for them.

If you encounter a funeral procession on your way, you should stop, take off your headdress and cross yourself.

When they carry a dead person to a cemetery, do not throw fresh flowers on the road after him - by doing this you damage not only yourself, but also many people who step on these flowers.

After the funeral, do not visit any of your friends or relatives.

If they take earth to “seal” a dead body, under no circumstances allow this earth to be taken from under your feet.

When someone dies, try to have only women present.

If the patient is dying seriously, then for an easier death, remove the feather pillow from under his head. In villages, the dying person is laid on straw.

Make sure that the deceased's eyes are tightly closed.

Do not leave a deceased person alone in the house; as a rule, elderly women should sit next to him.

When there is a dead person in the house, you cannot drink water in the neighboring houses in the morning, which was in buckets or pans. It must be poured out and freshly poured in.

When a coffin is made, a cross is made on its lid with an ax.

In the place where the deceased lay in the house, it is necessary to place an ax so that no more people die in this house for a long time.

For up to 40 days, do not distribute the deceased’s belongings to relatives, friends or acquaintances.

Under no circumstances should you put your pectoral cross on the deceased.

Before burial, do not forget to remove the wedding ring from the deceased. This way the widow (widower) will save herself from illness.

During the death of your loved ones or acquaintances, you must close the mirrors and not look into them after death for 40 days.

You can't let tears fall on your peace. This is a heavy burden for the deceased.

After the funeral, do not allow your loved ones, acquaintances or relatives to lie on your bed under any pretext.

When a deceased person is taken out of the house, make sure that none of those accompanying him on his final journey leave with his back turned.

After removing the deceased from the house, the old broom should also be removed from the house.

Before the last farewell to the deceased in the cemetery, when they lift the lid of the coffin, under no circumstances put your head under it.

The coffin with the deceased, as a rule, is placed in the middle of the room in front of household icons, facing the exit.

As soon as a person has died, relatives and friends must order a magpie in the church, that is, a daily commemoration during the Divine Liturgy.

Under no circumstances listen to those people who advise you to wipe your body with the water in which the deceased was washed to get rid of pain.

If the wake (third, ninth, fortieth day, anniversary) falls during Lent, then in the first, fourth and seventh weeks of Lent the relatives of the deceased do not invite anyone to the funeral.

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V.G. Perov. Scene at the grave. 1859

How to cope with grief when a loved one dies?

There is no need to grieve. You need to pray intensely for the deceased, and it will become easier - you will feel a connection with him. After all, a loved one did not die, but passed on to another, eternal world, for the immortal soul of a person is from God, and goes to God.

This life is temporary and filled with various sorrows, and no one can escape them. And a loved one has now gotten rid of all these earthly sorrows, and will live forever in another world, where “there is no illness, no sadness, but endless life.” The whole human race goes there - no one can stay here.

Is it necessary to cover the mirror if one of your relatives dies?

If the mirror arouses concern for appearance and distracts attention from prayer for the deceased, then it can be closed.

How is the last kiss of the deceased performed? Do I need to be baptized at the same time?

The farewell kiss of the deceased occurs after his funeral service in the temple. They kiss the aureole placed on the forehead of the deceased or apply it to the icon in his hands. At the same time, they are baptized on the icon.

What to do with the icon that was in the hands of the deceased during the funeral service?

After the funeral service for the deceased, the icon can be taken home or left in the temple. The icon is not left in the coffin.

What should you eat at a funeral?

According to tradition, after the burial, a funeral table is assembled. At the wake they eat special food - kutya (rice with honey or raisins), pancakes, jelly. On a fast day, food should be lean.

Unfortunately, the bad custom of commemorating the deceased at this table with wine and vodka with plenty of appetizers has taken root. The same thing is repeated on the ninth and fortieth days. It is sinful and shameful on the part of Christians to perform such a commemoration, which brings unspeakable grief to the newly departed soul, which these days is facing the decision of God’s Court, and it yearns for especially fervent prayer to God.

How to help the deceased?

It is quite possible to ease the punishment of a deceased sinner if you perform frequent prayers for him and give alms. It is good for the sake of the deceased to work for the Church or in the monastery.

What to read for the deceased during Easter week?

During Easter week, one should not read the Psalter for the deceased, but replace it with reading the Easter canon and Easter hymns, repeating them, or the Holy Gospel, even at the tomb of a layman.

There is a belief that before the fortieth day nothing of the deceased’s belongings should be given away. Is this true?

When should you intercede on behalf of the defendant - before or after the trial? So it is here: the soul goes through ordeals, judgment is carried out, one must intercede for it: pray and perform deeds of mercy. We must do good for the deceased: donate to the monastery, to the church, distribute the things of the deceased, buy holy books and give to believers before the fortieth day, and not after it.

Why is the death of the body necessary?

For many people, death is a means of salvation from spiritual death. For example, children who die at an early age do not know sin.

Death reduces the amount of total evil on earth. What would life be like if there were always killer Cains, betrayers of the Lord Judas, human beasts Nero and others like them? Therefore, the death of the body is not “ridiculous,” as people of the world say about it, but is necessary and expedient.

Why is the remembrance of the dead performed?

While a person is alive, he is able to repent of sins and do good. But after death, this possibility disappears, only hope remains in the prayers of the living. After the death of the body and private judgment, the soul is on the threshold of eternal bliss or eternal torment. This depends on how the short earthly life was lived. But much depends on prayer for the deceased. The lives of the holy saints of God contain many examples of how, through the prayer of the righteous, the posthumous fate of sinners was alleviated until their complete justification.

Which commemoration of the dead is the most important?

The most important commemoration is proskomedia, for the particles taken from the prosphora for the departed are immersed in the Blood of Christ and sins are cleansed by this great sacrifice.

What do the 3rd, 9th, 40th days after the death of a person mean? What should you do these days?

According to the teachings of the Orthodox Church, on the third day after death, the soul goes through a terrible path of aerial ordeals, where evil spirits torture it in all sinful deeds, words and thoughts. This path is difficult and regrettable even for the righteous. On this day, the Church prays for the soul, so that due to its sins it will not be relegated to a place of torment.

On the ninth day after death, the soul appears to worship God. At this time, the Church prays for the deceased, asking him to be numbered among the nine faces of angels.

On the fortieth day, the soul appears to God for the last time to worship and receive from Him a certain place in which it will remain until the time comes. Last Judgment God's On all these days, it is very important to order the remembrance of the deceased in the Church by submitting notes for the Liturgy and (or) requiem service - a shorter funeral service.

Is it possible to order a memorial service for the deceased if he is Catholic?

Private, cell (home) prayer for a non-Orthodox deceased is not prohibited. You can remember him at home, read psalms at the grave. But the funeral service and requiem service were compiled with the confidence that the deceased and the funeral service were a faithful member of the Orthodox Church. Being outside the Church during life, heretics and schismatics are even further away from it after death, for then the very possibility of repentance and turning to the light of truth is closed for them. It is quite natural, therefore, that the Church cannot offer a propitiatory bloodless sacrifice for them and no prayer at all.

Is it possible to order a memorial service for a deceased person who has not been baptized?

The Church cannot remember the unbaptized for the reason that they lived and died outside the Church - they were not its members, were not reborn to a new, spiritual life in the Sacrament of Baptism, did not confess the Lord Jesus Christ and cannot be involved in those benefits that He has promised those who love Him.

For the relief of the fate of the souls of the dead who were not worthy of Holy Baptism, and of infants who died in the womb or during childbirth, Orthodox Christians pray (usually read the canon) to the holy martyr Huar, asking for his intercession before God and believing in the power of his intercession. Such commemoration of the departed, transferred through humility and obedience to the Church to our home prayer, will be much more valuable in the eyes of God and more gratifying for the departed themselves than that performed in church, but in violation of the Church Charter.

Who is the newly departed, ever-remembered?

For forty days after the death of the deceased, they are called newly deceased. On memorable days for the deceased (death, name day, birth), he is called ever-remembered or ever-memorable.

What can be done for the deceased if he was buried without a funeral service?

You need to come to the church and order a funeral service in absentia, as well as a magpie, a memorial service.

Do the departed pray for us?

The dead no longer pray, but demand prayers and care for their souls from the living. But when their sins are cleansed by the prayers, faith and deeds of the living, then the prayer of remembrance turns to the benefit of the soul of the one who remembers.

Is it necessary to serve a memorial service for a baby?

There is no need to serve memorial services for babies - it is enough to remember them at the proskomedia. Requiem services are celebrated for the forgiveness of sins, and at the proskomedia a sacrifice is made. Since babies have no conscious sins, when they are buried they ask not for forgiveness of sins, but for repose.

Is it possible to pray for the repose of suicides and remember them in church?

Suicide is based on disbelief in God's Providence and despair - these are mortal sins. Mortals, because they do not give room for repentance, remove the saving grace from man. God's grace. A person voluntarily and completely surrenders himself to the power of the devil, blocks all paths to grace. How will the influence of this grace be possible for him? It is quite natural that the Church cannot offer a propitiatory bloodless sacrifice for such people and no prayer at all.

The only exception is when suicide is committed in a state of insanity (mental illness). But in each individual case, the question of whether church commemoration of a suicide can be allowed (in particular, his funeral service) must be decided by church authorities in the person of the diocesan bishop.

Private, home prayer for the repose of suicides is not prohibited, but it is better to do this with the blessing of the confessor.

Is it possible to perform a funeral service in absentia for someone who died during the war if the place of his burial is unknown?

It is possible, but the soil received after the funeral service in absentia should be sprinkled crosswise on any grave.

Is it true that on the 40th day, the commemoration of the deceased must be ordered in three churches at once, or in one, but three services in succession?

Immediately after death, it is customary to order a magpie from the Church. This is a daily commemoration of the newly deceased during the first forty days - until the private trial, which determines the fate of the soul beyond the grave. Sorokoust can be ordered in several churches and monasteries. The more prayer books there are for the deceased, the better.

Is it possible to order a memorial service for the deceased?

You can order a memorial service, but you must also perform the funeral service in absentia.

Is it true that suicides are commemorated on Radonitsa? What to do if, believing this, they regularly submitted notes to the temple commemorating suicides?

The Church never prays for suicides. We must repent of what we did at Confession and not do it again. All doubtful questions should be resolved with the priest, and not believe rumors.

What is Parents' Saturday?

On certain days of the year, the Church commemorates all deceased Christians. The memorial services that take place on such days are called ecumenical, and the days themselves are called Ecumenical Parental Saturdays. In the morning at parents' Saturdays The funeral Liturgy is always served, during which all departed Christians are remembered. After such a Liturgy there are also general memorial services. On Parents' Saturdays, Christians also try to visit the burial places of their deceased.

When are Parents' Saturdays?

Almost all parental Saturdays do not have a constant date, but are associated with the moving day of Easter celebration. Meat Saturday occurs eight days before the start of Lent. Parents' Saturdays occur on the 2nd, 3rd and 4th weeks of Lent. Trinity Parental Saturday - on the eve of the Holy Trinity, on the ninth day after the Ascension. On the Saturday preceding the day of remembrance of the Great Martyr Demetrius of Thessalonica (November 8, new style) there is Dimitrievskaya Parental Saturday.

Is it possible to pray for repose after parental Saturday?

You can and should always pray for peace. This is the duty of the living to the deceased, an expression of love for them, since the deceased themselves can no longer pray for themselves.

What other days of remembrance of the dead are there?

Radonitsa - nine days after Easter, on Tuesday after Bright Week. On Radonitsa they share the joy of the Resurrection of the Lord with the deceased, expressing hope for their resurrection. The Savior Himself descended into hell to preach victory over death and brought from there the souls of the Old Testament righteous. Because of this great spiritual joy, the day of this commemoration is called “Rainbow”, or “Radonitsa”.

Commemoration of deceased soldiers is performed Orthodox Church May 9, the holiday of Victory over Nazi Germany. Warriors killed on the battlefield are also remembered on the day of the Beheading of John the Baptist (September 11).

Why do you need to bring food to the temple?

Believers bring various foodstuffs to the temple so that the ministers of the Church will remember the departed at a meal.

In former times, in the courtyard of the house where the deceased was, on the most significant days for the soul (3rd, 9th, 40th) funeral tables were set, at which the poor, homeless, and orphans were fed, so that there would be many people praying for the deceased. For prayer and, especially, for alms, many sins are forgiven, and the afterlife is made easier. Then these memorial tables began to be placed in churches on the days of the universal remembrance of all Christians who have died since centuries with the same purpose - to remember the departed.

What is eve?

Eve (or eve) is a special table on which there is a Cross with a Crucifix and holes for candles. Before the eve there are funeral services. Candles are placed here and food can be placed to commemorate the dead.

What foods can you put on the eve?

Usually on the eve they put bread, cookies, sugar - everything that does not contradict fasting (since it can also be a fast day). You can donate lamp oil and Cahors oil for the eve.

If a person died in a continuous week before Peter's Lent, does this mean anything?

Doesn't mean anything. The Lord only ends a person’s life when he sees him ready to move into eternity or when he sees no hope for his correction.

Just as a gardener knows when a fruit is ripe (for both unripe and overripe fruit are good for nothing), so God knows best time the transition of the human soul to eternity. The soul must manifest itself in good or evil, like a photograph in a developer. Thanks to this chemical reagent, a darkened face can be seen in one photo, while another, over the course of life, reveals the beauty of the soul and becomes a face. This photo is put on place of honor and admire him. Life can also be compared with a manifester, during which each person “manifests” through his deeds in the direction of good or evil, salvation or destruction.

What soul does not go through ordeals after death?

Only that soul which the Lord has vouchsafed to receive communion with full faith at the hour of death is delivered from the ordeals of the air.

They say that those who died Bright Week receive the Kingdom of Heaven. Is it so?

This is not true for everyone. Anyone who lived piously, did good deeds, wore a cross, repented, and took communion during Lent - is truly worthy of a blessed life in eternity.

Why is it necessary to receive communion on the days of remembrance of relatives: on the ninth, fortieth days after death?

Special commemoration of the deceased is performed on the 3rd, 9th, 40th day, and then on the anniversaries of death and on namesake days. The prayer will be more effective if the one commemorating these days himself partakes of the Body and Blood of Christ.

How many days do people mourn for the deceased?

There is a tradition of mourning for forty days for a deceased loved one, since on the fortieth day the soul of the deceased receives a certain place in which it will remain until the Last Judgment of God. That is why, until the fortieth day, intense prayer is required for the forgiveness of the sins of the deceased, and the external wearing of mourning is intended to promote internal concentration and attention to prayer, to keep from active involvement into previous everyday affairs.

Is it necessary on the anniversary of death close relative go to the cemetery?

The main days of remembrance of the deceased are the anniversaries of death and namesake. The day of death is the day of the second birth, but for the new one - not earthly, but eternal life. Before visiting the cemetery, you should come to the church at the beginning of the service and submit a note with the name of the deceased for commemoration at the altar (it is better if it is commemorated at a proskomedia).

Is it possible to cremate the deceased?

It is advisable to bury the body of the deceased. Cremation is a custom alien to Orthodoxy, borrowed from Eastern cults. Even if the deceased wished to be cremated, it is not a sin to violate this dying will.

Is it possible to get married in the year of your mother's death?

How can you have fun at a wedding if your mother recently died? It is better to postpone the wedding until after the anniversary of the mother's death. After all, after getting married, the daughter will be busy with the problems of her family, and the closest person - the deceased mother - will be left without her prayerful help. We must not forget that forever alive soul The deceased feels a great need for constant prayer for her, because she herself can no longer do good deeds with which she would be able to appease God. Therefore, prayer for deceased loved ones is the duty of every Orthodox Christian.

What to do if you dream of a dead person?

This means that his soul is asking for prayer. If the abyss in which the souls of the departed were to open up, a touching picture of their silent prayer to the living would be revealed - a plea to help them with prayers. Therefore, you need to go to the temple and submit notes of remembrance, preferably for a long time.

What should you do if, after the death of a loved one, you are tormented by your conscience about the wrong attitude towards him during life?

A living person can do much more for a deceased person than when he was alive. The deceased are in great need of prayer and alms given for them. Therefore, we must devote all our strength to prayer: read the Psalter at home, submit notes of remembrance to the church, feed the poor and homeless, help the old and sick and ask them to remember the deceased. And in order for your conscience to calm down, you need to go to church for Confession and sincerely tell the priest everything that it accuses you of.

What to do when visiting a cemetery?

Arriving at the cemetery, you need to clean up the grave. You can light a candle. If possible, invite a priest to perform the litia. If this is not possible, then you can read the short rite of lithium yourself by first purchasing the corresponding brochure in a church or Orthodox store. If you wish, you can read an akathist about the repose of the departed. Just be silent, remember the deceased.

Is it possible to have a “wake” in a cemetery?

You should not eat or drink in the cemetery. It is especially unacceptable to pour vodka into a grave mound - this insults the memory of the deceased. Leaving a glass of vodka and a piece of bread at the grave “for the deceased” is a relic of paganism and is not supported by the Orthodox. There is no need to leave food on the grave - it is better to give it to the beggar or the hungry.

Is it necessary to go to the cemetery on Easter, Trinity, and Holy Spirit Day?

Sunday and holidays should be carried out V prayer in the temple of God, and for visiting the cemetery there are special days commemoration of the deceased - parental Saturdays, Radonitsa, as well as death anniversaries and namesake days of the deceased.

Is it possible to take a dog with you when visiting a cemetery?

Dogs are not allowed in the cemetery, especially in the fence where the temple is located.